- Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life. Ephesians 4:26-27 (MSG)
- Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God. Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time. Watch out for the Esau syndrome: trading away God’s lifelong gift in order to satisfy a short-term appetite. You well know how Esau later regretted that impulsive act and wanted God’s blessing—but by then it was too late, tears or no tears. Hebrews 12:14-17 (MSG)
TALK IT OVER
- Throughout this series, we're taking a deeper look at the 3 ways we can respond to conflict. Last week we learned about ATTACKING. This week we talked about ESCAPING. Escaping breaks peace in our relationships because it denies, runs away, and completely destroys the possibility of any chance of things getting better. Out of these 3 escaping responses, what's something that stood out to you, and why?
- The heart of an escaper is “self-focused”. When do you find yourself being selfish when it comes to conflict?
- Read Matthew 19:26. What are some ways you've given up on the relationships in your life due to conflict?
LIVE IT OUT
- Take a look at the conflict in your life and see where you're responded as a peaceFAKER. What relationships have you played a part in avoiding or denying there was a problem? Make a list of the people who have been affected by your escaping response, and pray every day this week for God to heal those relationships. *Keep your list... we'll be using this later in this series.
- Ask God to show you the way out the next time you're facing conflict. To know if you're faking the peace, ask yourself the following 4 questions...
- Am I more interested in avoiding this conflict than resolving it?...
- Am I more concerned about how this "looks" than how it really is?...
- Am I focused on what's easiest or more convenient for me?...
- Am I willing to destroy this relationship in order to avoid confrontation?...
- Do something FUN with the people you're quarantined with. If you're alone, then call someone or Facetime. Don't allow the stay-at-home order make things worse in your relationships, or your house. This week, focus on the people around you. Sacrifice your time. Turn your phone off for a day and spend time with the people you love.
PLEASE NOTE: Suicide is discussed in this week's talk as a decision in response to conflict. We want to be clear that suicide is a forever answer to a temporary problem and ends your situation or struggle or conflict with no
possibility of resolving the issue, and it doesn’t give God the chance
to change the situation either. So, if
you’re struggling right now, or if you every find yourself in a moment
where you think you’re better off dead, then please reach out to someone or call (800) 274-8255.
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