Review this week’s message and discuss the questions with someone... maybe a family member or friend. Use a communication method that works best for you during this time of quarantine.
TALK IT OVER
LIVE IT OUT
- Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 (NLT)
- Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. Proverbs 19:11 (NLT)
- Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it. Psalm 34:14 (NLT)
- Be sure that no one pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to do what is good for each other and for all people.1 Thessalonians 5:15 (NCV)
a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle
with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and
thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32
- "All people will know that you are my followers if you love each other." John 13:35 (NCV)
TALK IT OVER
- Throughout this series, we're taking a deeper look at the 3 ways we can respond to conflict. So far, we've discussed 2 ways; ATTACKING and ESCAPING. This week we talked about the power of making peace. Making peace is the best way for us to respond to conflict in our relationships because it overlooks minor offenses, discusses issues, and negotiates. Out of these 3 peace making responses, what's something that stood out to you, and why?
- Read Proverbs 17:1 (NLT). What does this verse mean to you and how does it apply in your life and relationships currently?
- Out of the 3 ways we can choose to respond to conflict; ATTACKING (peace breaking), ESCAPING (peace faking), and MAKING PEACE (peace making), how do you respond answer the following questions that apply to you...
- If you're a "couple" in a relationship... When conflict arises, which is the easiest way for you to respond? What can you do to become a better peacemaker?
- If you're a parent... As your children watch your example, are they learning to respond to conflict as peacemakers, peacebreakers, or peacefakers? What can you do to become a better peacemaker?
- If you're single... Do you see the importance of finding someone who seeks peace in your relationship, instead of peacebreaking or peacefaking? How can you be sure to find someone who is a peacemaker?
- If you're an employee... How do you respond facing conflict with your boss, co-workers, or customers? Do you respond to them differently? What can you do to bring peace to your workplace?
- If you're a friend to others... When you think about the friendships you have, would you consider yourself a peacebreaker, peacefaker, or peacemaker? If there are relationships that are unhealthy, what can you do to make them better? What boundary are you willing to set to make sure YOU are healthy?
- In order for us to make peace, we must be willing to FORGIVE. Forgiveness is NOT saying what someone did is okay, but forgiveness releases us from the pain and in order to have healthy relationships, we MUST forgive. Do you find it difficult or easy to forgive? Are there some people you forgive faster than others? Why do you think that is?
LIVE IT OUT
- Take a look at your usual response to conflict. Is it to ATTACK?... ESCAPE?... or MAKE PEACE? If your answer varies, depending on the people in your life, be honest with yourself as to why. Ask God to help you become a peacemaker in all situations.
a list of the people who you have had (or are currently having) conflict with. Bring the lists out that you've made from the past few weeks, and with the list you just finished, look over all the lists you've made and pray for God to give you the power to let go and forgive so you can move forward. Do this every day until you feel released. To know if you've forgiven someone completely or not, ask yourself the following 4 questions...
- Am I dwelling on the incident?...
- Do I bring up the incident again and use it against the person?...
- Do I talk to others about the incident?...
- Do I let the incident stand between me and the other person, or has it hindered my personal relationship?...
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